What is Love?

So many people are looking for love, but do they know what love is. Or even how to love, hum! So let see, does it always start with childhood, how our parents treated us? Or can we learn to love when we are with a person we love. People are barely loyal when it comes to friends. Husband and wives cheat and in heated arguments, it usually comes out. In fact growing up parents doesn’t seem to keep much private anymore. It is almost they want to score with the child. Anyway, back to what my topic is about. Do we know what real love is, or are we more programmed now a day to want what we want, even if it is not good for us and go for it. Parents now of days, seem to buy the children devices to keep them occupied and the parents having their own time. So when we are adults and it is time to love someone and go into a meaningful relationship, can we do it? Are we too selfish to love anyone more than ourselves, or at least, put them first now and then. I know that you are supposed to love yourself before you can love someone else but, I'm not sure we even love ourselves in a healthy way. Let alone having room to love another. So my point, we need to step back and look at ourselves in the mirror, then look at our relationships. Is it the person that is good to you that would treasure you and treat you with the respect and care to lead to always and forever, or even what would be good for you right now? Or is it just a possession, like a car, or your favorite purse that eventually you want a new one. We need to reflect on what is love, real love. Do you know what love is? All I know is that the person that says I love you to you should be lifting you up. Making your life brighter as you should be doing for them. So check things out, look in your mirror. What do you see? Do you know what love is? It is never too late to learn how to love! XO BARBARA JEANNE

Alimony?

When the marriage is over and you can't seem to move on or pull out of it seek help. I find after a man’s marriage ends he wants to find a woman and move on but somehow they rather stay in the single status and not get married, and then if destiny has it, the new man in her life will end up staying a permanent boyfriend. What puzzles me a bit is that woman wants to date, or be with a man even in a serious relationship, but all on the man’s dime. What does that mean, her money, is her money and the man still pays for everything. So what made me think about this today? Sitting at the bank an old friend pulled up next to me. Talking, she said she was cashing her alimony check, which is fine. That is her business. Then she proceeded to say that, her and her boyfriend of three years will not be getting married because she doesn't want to lose her alimony, she next proceeds to call him her wife, he cooks cleans and pays for everything. Why does she need to get married? She ended this part of the conversation, stating that her ex is still paying her insurance and cell phone. I guess what really bothered me is that she laughing that she was taking from both, that is just bad karma to me. I know a lot of woman say, men have been dogs for years or she is probably owed it. When you get married and have a child, we woman have the choice to stay home or work. We women are strong about this. If we don’t want to work, Nine out of ten we won't and get our way and stay home. So when it comes to alimony, I do believe in it, to help a woman survive, either with their children or alone. I do not feel that it is a man’s responsibility for the rest of their lives, nor do I think if a woman is living with someone and plays the no I don't game, it is wrong. If you happened to marry a bum or jerk, then I feel you should and do deserve alimony. If you cheat, come on. If it is equal decision, then it should be something mutual worked out together. My question is would you want to pay if it was the other way around. Yes, it may be this time and age. It might be the woman paying for the man. So either way woman or man, don't keep love it better than ever and the love of your life, your soul mate. To me that is worth more than money, more than gold. xo Barbara Jeanne

New Year...Bring It On

It is a new year. Go for it, like you are going to conquer it. Then do it. Don't be unsure, doubt yourself, or be negative. Remember that everthing you do is a learning experience. So be daring and think of it as a challenge you can conquer, not a sruggle you will eventually lose. If it is love you are looking for, this year, take the time to look in the right places. You know the saying , looking for love in all the wrong places. Nope not you this year. You will find the right track.If it's the job you always wanted, find out what you need to achieve, to get it. School, classes, trainning.you're there. To be more organized, save money, whatever it may be, find what it is and Just Do It! there are so many means to find out and learn what its is you need to do. If you are reading this, this is your number one sorce. So google or ask. You can ask me and I will either tell you if I know, or find the means to find out to tell you. Don'twait for the fun. You can start the fun, be the fun. There are so many paths you can take in your life, so if you stray onto a different path for a bit to try something new. You can always find your way back to the path and if you go a different direction, then that is what is meant for you. You may get things wrong but God doesn't and if you trust in the man uptairs, you will get to where you are suppose to bE. So stop doubting yourself. Rememeber, do what you can, and God will do what you can't. Have a great blessed year! XO BARBARA JEANNE

New Year, A Better and Happier You

So it is the New Year so let’s think positive. The last couple years may have hit you hard, maybe just the last year. People all over seem to be going through some hard times these days. We can either stay in the pit, or pull you up to get into the palace. How do you do this? You strive. You ignore things that bring you down. You let go of the people holding you down. Either they don't want you to get up or want you to stay down with them. Believe it or not being down is some peoples comfort zone. Decide that you no longer want to be there. Decide you want to check out the palace and see how the happy people are, that moved on up. What does it take to let go of the past? Letting go of all the negativity around you and most important thing, you got to keep on keeping on. You will succeed to the place you want to be. So start today and make it the first day that you let go of the past. Second, don't run with those who want to run you down and last believe you can achieve any dream you have, if you don't let go of your dream and go for it. It may not be as big as you intended or it might be way bigger then you intended but either way, you will move up and get from the pit to the palace. It's up to you. Hope to see you there, I'm on my way. xo Barbara Jeanne

OUTFITS TO BRING IN THE NEW YEAR

I TOOK TWO YEARS OF FASHION & MERCHANDISING IN COLLEGE, AND WORKED N THE FIELD. I PUT SOME OUTFITS TOGETHER FOR ALL BODY TYPES. ALTHOUGH I AM THIN, IT WILL GIVE YOU IDEAS TO FEEL AND LOOK GREAT TO BRING IN THE NEW YEAR. FROM FORMAL GOWN WEAR, TO JEANS & BOOTS. IF YOU HAVE A MID SECTION THAT IS WIDER, A TUMMY. YOU CAN WEAR A SHIRT THAT BLOUSES OUT AND FLOWS, WITH JEANS OR LEGGINGS. THEY HAVE SHITRS AT ALL LENGTHS, SO GET ONE TO THE LENGTH THAT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH. IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO COVER YOUR BUTT. ALSO THEY HAVE SHIRTS THAT BLOUSE OUT, THEN GATHER BACK AT THE BOTTOM WITH ELASTIC, WHICH IS GOOD WHEN YOU HAVE A TUMMY OR BUTT. THEY HAVE THESE CLOTHES FOR ALL BUDGETS, FROM MACYS TO WALMART. HAVE FUN WITH WHAT YOU WEAR, FEEL COMFORTABLE. FEEL BEAUTIFUL. EACH WOMAN SHOULD FEEL THIS WAY. THE POINT OF MY PICS IS TO LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU SHOULD FEEL GOOD WITH YOUR BODY NO MATTER WHAT BODY YOU HAVE. IT IS YOURS. SO LEARN TO LOVE IT. MORE PICS FOR BRINGING IN THE NEW YEAR COMING THIS AFTERNOON, ALONG WITH ROMANTIC BEDROOM WEAR FOR ALL SIZES. HAPPY NEW YEAR! XO BARBARA JEANNE