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In the dilemma of choosing who might be the right person for you. There are really more things to look at then chemistry, or materials things. Although very important, let us take this alittle further. The other night i went to see the movie LOVE, AND OTHER DRUGS. So if you think it is that simple, you are absolutely wrong, im so sorry to say. You must not only think for today but down the line. In my life I am contiplating the man to be my forever and always. This movie made my decision so much clearer. It is so easy to give someone advice but when it comes to yourself at times you can be blinded. This movie had two very attractive main characters and lots of hot sex, the kind that we would all love to be having. The sex you see on the screen that makes you want to well, have wild sex. Working through this part, and thinking ok, is this it, came a what if. What if you were sick, would it matter that you married the hot guy with the great job. That drove that fancy car. Or the sexy girl that all the guys drooled over but you got. So you got them, married them and to your surprise, you are not as happy as you thought you would be. You may have gained a few pound and they as well. And then the unthinkable happens, you realize you're sick. This is where it counts. Would they be there through it all. Love you enough to make you feel beautiful, when you are laying there all yucky because you did'nt have the strength to take a shower and more so would they shower you, brush your teeth, feed you. Lets keep going, no one thinks of sickness until it is upon us. For sickness and in health. Our society never seems to makes it that far, but sickness does not pick a age or a gender. so we have to make sure we keep this in mind when we pick out the person we are intending on spending our life wth. Maybe if we picked out that type of person from the get go, we would have our always and forever. That person that would brush our hair or our teeth, feed us and it would be their fight as much as ours. So when picking a mate I believe 100% that this should come into the equation. because when you are sick and i should know, but we'll leave that to another article. it is the most important thing. To have your mate comfort you, to rub your head, to hold your hand, to tell you everything is going to be ok, but most of all to be there by your side. That is love forever and always. love Barbara Jeanne xo



I am so surprised how relationships have changed. I know people want them, I hear this just about every day. But as fast as the relationship may start, it's about as fast as they seem to end. They are almost becoming existent. There are so many dating sites but I think people are getting a dating site confused with a relationship site. Yes you have to date to move forward to a long term relationship but somehow it doesn't seem to get that far too often. Although it may say check the long term box on the questionnaire, but for most part I think it becomes exactly what it says, dating. Then we have women and men saying they met the nicest guy or woman but I only see or hear from them once a week. A call here and there and a couple texts, to say hey, what's up? Just enough to keep you hanging on, while they are checking out the many others they see on how ever many site they might be on. At some point I talk with people that I think they are more interested in the high of talking to the person on line, then actually meeting the person. It's almost you can predict the persons evening. To come home, get a bite to eat and jump on line and off they are for a night of relationship with the person they choose to talk to that night. It might be a repeater from the evening before or someone new. Either way dating sites are turning to a night with a lap top and a stranger. People seem to be able to stay content with this more and more and it’s ashamed. If you do meet the person from a site, local bar, or where ever it might be and hit it off, what may be the problem that it doesn't go far? What I am finding from people I have counseled, is selfishness. People seem to be so self-absorbed that they don't want to give. They sure are good at taking but they are not so good for doing for another. Hardly with family and friends have we known all our lives, let alone a partner? Why, life seems okay, smooth, no waves, but one day you will realize you're alone. It may be when you are down on your luck and wish you had someone. It may come when you're older and not so good for the pickings. A man I once counseled said to me, when I was younger I didn't want to be in a relationship. He thought he was the **** and wanted to run and play, although already married. He then said, but now that I'm older and really want to find a nice lady, nobody wants him. He was 52, he passed at 58 alone. So are we able to get back love, romance, that old fashions love you always and forever? Absolutely! How? Love like there's no tomorrow, love like you love yourself. And love because being loved back feels absolutely wonderful! xo Barbara Jeanne

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